August 25, 2025

I Met My Fifteen-Year-Old Self For Coffee


I would arrive early to allow myself

     enough time to find a parking spot,

          get inside, and still have

               an extra minute to spare.

She would show up hot and sweaty,

     five minutes late,

          because she rode her bike here,

               hit every stoplight on red,

                     and was still a little hungover

                          from being out late last night with

her boyfriend.

I would give her a big hug,

     look into her beautiful blue-green eyes,     

          and let her know how grateful I am

               that she took the time to

                    have coffee with me today.

She would make eye contact with me,

      then quickly glance away and look up

at the menu,

asking what I was going to get today.

I ordered a dark chocolate mocha,

     with oat milk, and yes,

           I want to keep the whipped cream on it,

                because as I shared with her,

whipped cream brings me joy.

She orders a soymilk latte

     with sugar-free raspberry syrup

          because everything else upsets her stomach,

and she's trying to watch her weight.

We talk about school

     and how difficult things are at home.

With tears in her eyes,

     she shares how her family recently visited

the group home where her older brother now lives.

               She says she misses him so much it feels

like she’s lost her best friend— like a part of

her is slowly dying.

I lean over and squeeze her shoulders

as she turns away, tears still in her eyes.
I told her I loved her bright purple jeans

and black nail polish.

 I assured her that life wouldn’t always be like this,

       and I promised that things would change.

              I told her how proud I was of her.

                 How strong and beautiful she is

      both inside and out.

She thanked me for the coffee,

tucked her short hair

behind her left ear, 

and said she hoped we could meet again soon. 

I sat and watched as she pedaled away on her bike,

      deeply aware of the grief that awaited her,

            but also filled with immense love and joy,

knowing what lay

just around the bend.

-Written in Honor of Janae Cecilia

“I Met My Younger Self for Coffee.”

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